Here is Part 10 of Mayan Jaguar Time. In this series, Belit shares more about her discoveries as she explores her Mayan Jaguar Sign.
We often hear of how there are those people in society who do not fit in – they are anti-social, or are just plain weird.
These people feel different compared to everyone else. It is like they were born in the wrong time period or even born on the wrong planet. They start to pretend so that they will be like everyone else. Then they talk about things they have no interest in, in an attempt to be “normal ‘ like everyone else. The realization is that they are the “oddballs”. They are being inauthentic and not being fully and completely themselves.
Some of these people just maintain the status quo and become more and more different than their true nature. This only leads them to be outcasts. In some instances, they may become extremely depressed, lonely, and isolated.
Sound familiar? Check. Feel different? Check. Don’t fit in? Check. Do you need time to be alone? Check. Same characteristics, same emotions, same situations as the weirdos. This is us. Jaguars. All day, all night.
The social dilemma.
The world we live in is extremely social. It is almost too social, and it denies the fact that, at some point and time, we all need to spend time with ourselves in order to learn who we are.
We spend so much time looking at the “blues”, hearing the “blues” and feeling the “blues” and getting more and more depressed all the while. Watching our neighbors get that new Benz that we want so much, but cannot afford. Trying to keep up with those “K” people. These are people who are all close to being billionaires and whose lives, even though they are supposedly are on reality TV, we know absolutely nothing about.
Yet, we still cling to their fantasy as if it is going to help us do something in life.
We lose ourselves in the façade. We beg for “likes” on FB and Insta. We get depressed when someone unfollows us. The people in white coats tell us all about who we are and then give us meds to cope with the fact that in truth, we have no idea who we are. Those things we carry with us that we call “phones”, which unless you have an Obama phone, and in this day and age, that would be the minority of the population, what we have are small, hand-held, state-of-the-art computers, with a built in professional camera. These things also come equipped with something called “apps”, that allow us to do any and everything we could possibly dream of: from learning something new, playing the latest mind control games, to planning our exercise routines, checking our bodily functions, and keeping track of all of our appointments. Losing the functioning of our brain’s memory capacity in the process. All of this to the point that we will actually lose our minds if this thing gets lost, stolen, or misplaced.
We put our lives in the hands of these devices. They store our passwords, allow us to connect to the internet and every platform of social media known to mankind.
Who is in control?
Not that the device thing wasn’t bad enough, we continually allow other people to tell us how to be, to the point that we do not know how to be ourselves and drown ourselves in popcorn and sitcoms on Netflix.
Our boss tells us when to be at work, when to eat, when to drink and when to go to the bathroom. Our doctor tells us all about our bodies because we have no clue about our own bodies. Yet they intentionally discuss our situations in words that are all at least fifteen letters in length, which, of course, we do not understand. In the end, they just give us a prescription for some meds, that act as a band-aid to the root of the problem and actually cause us to continually need more meds. Then these meds eventually give us another condition, which gives us another condition, which gives us another condition. All of these conditions cause us to go from this specialist to another specialist and to yet another specialist.
From here we go around and around and around until we either stop the merry-go-round or succumb to our own predictable demise.
When was the last time you went to the park? Or took a walk? Had a face-to-face conversation without distraction? Or actually looked at yourself in the mirror in your raw form?
Now it is time to take back control of your life.
While isolation is necessary at times, just for our general health and well-being, there are times when it can really hurt.
This is because at the root of our evolutionary history we all have a need to belong. Not fitting in can affect us psychologically and physiologically.
But there may be some valid reasons for your isolation. For example, our friends may change. You may be on a different wavelength from most of your family. Your associates at work may not share your enthusiasm. There are a thousand more situations that may take place. This, however, is not the be-all and end-all of your life.
What to do?
Be aware that even though you may have become blood siblings with your bestie in fifth grade, this may or may not be a forever thing. You may have just grown apart.
This is not a matter of it being good or bad unless there is some drama involved. These things just happen. So, take this opportunity to make new friends or do something you have always wanted to do.
You may not have found your tribe yet. Your tribe are the people who truly know and understand you. This could very well be in part because you do not know yourself (see above again). You should take this time to find out who you really are so you and your tribe can connect and change the world together.
You may just need to open up and share some of yourself with the people in your sphere of influence or take that leap and meet some new people. This can be as simple as asking someone questions about themselves and then actively listening to the response and building from there. Or strike up a conversation with the person behind you in line at the store. You never know.
Stop worrying about what EVERYONE else thinks. There will always be haters. That’s a fact. Just be the best you can be and let the haters go hate somewhere else. Let go of those people and things that do not serve you and move on.
Be kind to yourself – believe it or not many, many people feel the same. Society has taught us to be this one thing: nice, with no personal opinion and you will follow the herd over the edge of the cliff.
Stop trying to fit in and notice what makes you different. If you don’t fit in, do not by any means FORCE your way in. Look for the triggers. Is it your feelings? Is the issue that you don’t enjoy the people present? Do you not feel interested in the activity at hand? Are you on the opposite page in a completely different book? None of this means that there is anything wrong with you, you are just different. This is an opportunity to explore yourself – not that you have to change or force the situation – but it’s an opportunity to look at the situation and do what is best for you. Going along with this, don’t try and force your way into a friendship, and don’t put forth the effort to create a friendship. Remember that true friendships take time to develop. In the end, it will be worth it. This is the time to find out what you want to do, where you want to do it, and how you would like it to happen.
Spend this time to find out who you really are and own it. Your uniqueness is what makes you YOU, and no one else in the entire universe can be you except you. Embrace who you are at your core and find ways to share with others if you so choose.
The main point.
Embrace your authenticity. Don’t pretend to be what you are not just to fit in. This will only create shallow friendships and more people will not understand you. Do you, boo!
Figure out what you want in life and go for it.
Be the Jaguar.
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